Matrimonial Chronicles, Volume 1
I's married now! Yup, it's been 3 full months. "How does it feel?" people ask me. Honestly, not much different than before. We "shacked up" for a couple months before the wedding. I knew most of his habits, so I was prepared. We're good at accepting each other the way we are.. ok, HE is good at it. I think I need more patience and work. But I'm getting there and learning to choose my battles. But overall, marriage is suiting me just fine, and I'm diggin' it so far. Ask me again next year this time.
I'm starting these "Matrimonial Chronicles" to share my thoughts, observations, and challenges with being married. This week, I face one of my more... oh, what's the word... let's say more interesting challenges, for lack of a better word.
Hubby's parents are coming for their first visit. Well, the father came as a "surprise" a couple weeks after we got married before we moved to our new home but that was just for a couple hours. This time, the parents are both coming for an overnight visit and we're still unpacking from our move last week. I've never entertained them in "my space" before, nor have I ever cooked for them. I don't know why this is alittle unnerving for me, but it is. I feel as if I will be judged -- Am I keeping the home clean? Am I taking good care of their son? Cooking well-rounded meals.
I want to laugh at myself. I'm a great wife and treat Hubby with respect and loving kindness. I make dinner most of the time and have it waiting when he gets home. I send him off to work with a home-made lunch whenever possible. I keep a tidy house and i can't help it if we just moved in and things are still in disarray. Right? These people love me already... I have nothing to worry about. But I am... alittle bit. How will I get everything unpacked and put away on time? Should I hire a cleaning service to help before they get here? What do I cook? Do I go get a Costco rotisserie chicken and chocolate chip cookies and pass them off as my own and just make a few sides? LOL. OK, a tad extreme -- I know. It'll be interesting, I'm sure. I'll keep you "posted".
3 comments:
First, just BREAVE. You are trippin' for no reason, girl. You are the queen of entertaining and would always have house guests when you were living the single life. So there's no need to trip off of that. I'm sure that it won't kill the new in-laws to step around a few boxes if need be. If it would save you some time then go ahead and hire a cleaning service to help you out, but I would advise to avoid the pre-made Costco meal. I'm sure you got some slammin' recipes up your sleeve that'll have them licking each other's fingers. Can't wait to hear the post script to this weekend.
You need not worry. Hubby's parents are not the type to judge you. Look at it this way, if you made it to the point of marrying him, then you know it's all good with his "kin folk." I'm sure they know that the two of you are still getting things ready, as I'm sure they're understanding and loving parents.
I understand what a nerve wracking thing this can be having your in-laws come and visit and I'm sure hubby is assuring you it will all turn out fine...which it will. When a man is happy and taken care of, it's apparent and a mother can always tell :) Bottom line is, YOU and HE know what's going on and that's what ultimately matters.
Come back and tell us how it went.
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